7 Ways to Stop Being Single and Depressed

 Most of us the first thinking we get when we finish a relationship or cycles  we started to think, "Oh my goodness, I'm going to be alone forever. What is wrong with me?!"  I can tell you that years could past by if you don't change your mindset and attitude to start seen real changes. The desire for loving attachment is one of the most basic, enduring, and natural human needs but it needs to start with you and your inner you. You need to love yourself and work on yourself before getting out insecure and doing the wrong moves at your dates.

 A lot of people out there feel like they will never find love. They have a nagging feeling that maybe they are "doomed" to be alone forever, or maybe they are too "flawed" to be loved—and that, my friends, is a very painful thing to feel. You need to believe you are a worthy person. I want you to believe that you deserve to be loved and to find a romantic partner that will cherish you.  Stop thinking the bad moments or words because this generate bad emotions and will affect everything around you. You need Get rid of the fear of being forever single, because it is just that: a fear, an emotion that you have about yourself, a belief about your future—not reality.
Here are 7 ways to help you see things the way they really are:

1. Stop Criticizing Yourself

Take an honest look at how often you put yourself down during an average day. How often do you criticize yourself by telling yourself things like: I'm so stupid. I'm too fat. I'm too old. I'm ugly. I'm damaged goods. I always screw things up. I'm an idiot. And so on and so forth. Rings a bell? Well if you talk to yourself in this way, your mood will drop, your fears and insecurities will increase, and you are basically conditioning yourself to believe you are an unworthy person. Your thoughts have a direct impact on how you feel.
It's simple. Think good things: feel good. Think bad things: feel bad.

2. Feel Good About Yourself

This cannot be said enough. Imagine you walked into a car dealership and the salesman told you he had a car for you. He says, "Well, it's kinda old and beat up. It still runs, but it's high on gas, there's a few scratches on the paint, and I'm not sure how reliable it is." Now, how much would you want to buy that car? You'd be out of there in a New York second and looking for something better in no time, I'm quite sure. Why? Because if the person selling you the car doesn't even believe in the quality of the car, why should you?

3. Realize You Have Something Valuable to Offer

What are some of your great qualities? Are you an honest, hard-working, sensitive person? Are you an athletic, artistic, family-oriented individual? Are a relaxed, easy-going person, or an organized, efficient person? Not only can you find someone who shares the same interests and qualities that you hold, but you can also complement (not complete with!) your future partner by bringing in your own strengths to the relationship.

4. Change the Way You Think and Feel About the Opposite Sex

So many individuals hold false beliefs about the opposite sex. Because you've had bad experiences, your way to appraise the opposite sex has changed.
What are the beliefs you hold about the opposite sex? Do you think things like:

• All men are jerks.
• Men only want sex.
• Men fear relationships.
• Men can't be faithful.
• All women are gold diggers.
• All women are emotional explosions.
• All the good ones are taken.

Well, that's simply not true. Men want love and marriage just as much as women do. There are still plenty of great, fun-loving, charming, and gentle people out there. If you hold these negative thoughts about the opposite sex, your fear of staying single forever multiplies because you are constantly telling yourself that there is no one for you out there.

5. Change the Way You Think and Feel About Being Single

Have you noticed how being married and having children has become a measure of personal success and worth? There seems to be tremendous social pressure to be in a relationship, especially for women. No matter how successful a woman is, if she's single, people think she's either unhappy or so difficult to get along with that she can't make a relationship work. This makes being single look like some sort of personal failure. You are not a failure. Your personal value is exactly the same whether you are single or in a relationship.

6. Focus on What You Do Have

Be grateful for friends and family. Your fear of being alone makes you feel and act desperate (I know—I've been there, too). But nobody wants to fill the position of the interchangeable boyfriend or girlfriend. People want to know you love them for who they are, and that you don't just need someone to take care of you. Be grateful for all the beautiful things that you do have. Focusing on the one thing that is missing from your life makes you miss the larger picture: You have tons of great things going for you already!

7. Schedule Activities Every Week and Enjoy Yourself

Make the most of your time alone and enjoy yourself. Being in a relationship leaves less time for hanging out with friends, reading books, scheduling activities that are just for you (no matter how great your new boyfriend is, I doubt he'll want to go have bikini wax with you). See this as a relational-vacation time! Go out there and have some fun. By filling your life with activities, you won't focus on the "emptiness" as much. Instead, you'll see that you have a rich life, and you'll feel happier. Being happier will make you an instant date-magnet! People want to be around happy people. Confidence is the most attractive outfit.