Sunday, January 8, 2017

How to get your Ex Back

Did you just finish a relationship and you want to get your ex back?

Many of us we have been in a situation when we break up a relationship with a loved man or woman and we feel like is the end of the world. We usually feel very emotional and wondering why is happening this situation into our life. I recommend you to close your eyes, breath and start seeing this situation like a great opportunity to work on yourself. I know breaking up sucks and the most of your friends will give you the same advice, just forget your ex and move on. But that’s not always easy, is it? Sometimes, you want to fight for the relationship. Sometimes you just know deep in your heart that if only you could get another chance with your ex, things would work out.

If there is any way or guide to get your ex back ?

  1. Don’t Be a Needy and Begging person: Begging and pleading makes you look like a needy person. And that is unattractive, very unattractive.
  2. Understand the Break Up: What did each of you do to contribute to the breakup? Most relationship troubles do not crop up unexpected, but build over time. The odds are good that it wasn’t a one-sided problem and that there were signs that it was coming. Take some time and do some soul searching before you attempt to get your ex back. *According to research, the number one cause of the breakup of romantic relationships is failure to communicate.
  3. Unwanted and Unnecessary Affection : Trust me; your ex knows how much you love them. And they also know that “you care for them”, “you want them to be happy”, “that they make you happy”, and “that they complete you”.

    They were in a relationship with you too and they probably care for you too. But that’s not what caused the breakup. Your ex doesn’t need to hear all this right now. It’s only going to make them put their defenses up.
  4. Avoid contact for the first month after the break-up. They will call you if they want to talk. If they don’t, nothing you say or wear will change that. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what they want.
This time off will also help you to distinguish between normal grief after a breakup and a real desire to be with your ex again. Nearly everyone feels sad after a breakup, even if their ex was a jerk and they were truly incompatible. Time alone will help you sort out these feelings. Hang out with your friends. Throw yourself into work and other extracurricular activities. You don’t want to seem needy or like you are waiting for your ex to contact you again.
  • Researchers have found that people who regain a healthy sense of self post-breakup recover more quickly from relationship-related grief.

I hope these tips help you to be more happy and to get your ex back if this is really your desire.

If you have another idea or advice I will love to know it and to share it with our visitors so please leave it in the comment section. Stop Being Single Today

Saturday, January 7, 2017

How to Stop Being Single and Depressed: How to Stop Being Depressed

How to Stop Being Single and Depressed: How to Stop Being Depressed: How many times in your life when you are living a bad situation they tell you to be positive ? Have you been struggling and working hard, no...

How to Stop Being Depressed

How many times in your life when you are living a bad situation they tell you to be positive ? Have you been struggling and working hard, not getting the results you expected and when you tell that to somebody, a friend or family member they tell you "be positive, you need to see the good things around you", but at the end you still feel depressed or sad. I know some successful people that they got money and expensive material things and they are not even happy. Depression drains your energy, hope, and drive, making it difficult to do what you need to feel better.

 We live in a society where a high value is placed on being positive. Yet sometimes this simply isn't possible, and people find themselves facing temporary or long-term sadness. Just telling yourself to "be positive" isn't much help, because moods can have a life of their own. One of the pitfalls of being positive is that people tend to fantasize about a perfect life instead of realistically facing the fact that no life is perfect. Everyone's existence contains challenges, disappointments, frustration and failed expectations.

What is depression and how can I stop it ?

According to the DSM-5, a manual used to diagnose mental disorders, depression occurs when you have at least five of the following symptoms for at least two weeks:
  • A depressed mood during most of the day, particularly in the morning
  • Fatigue or loss of energy almost every day
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt almost every day
  • Impaired concentration, indecisiveness
  • Insomnia (an inability to sleep) or hypersomnia (excessive sleeping) almost every day
  • Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in almost all activities nearly every day
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide (not just fearing death)
  • A sense of restlessness or being slowed down
  • Significant weight loss or weight gain

How can I stop being depressed ?

I strongly recommend you first to start doing a daily activity or exercise, any sport or outdoor activity will really help you.
  1. Spend time with positive people – Nothing affects the way you think and feel more than the people you interact with. Thoughts (both positive and negative) are contagious.
  2. Understand the emotional cycle – Life is an emotional roller coaster. Some days you feel like nothing can stop you. Other days you feel utterly hopeless. Most of the time you’re somewhere in between. Understanding the pattern of positive and negative emotions will help you put your feelings in perspective. Next time you feel down, just remember that it’s a natural emotion that will inevitably pass. Depression is not forever, it just a cycle ! Think about it, it will end as soon as you decide to stop it. So today if you are reading this article you already deciding and taking the first step to stop being depressed. Congratulations!
  3. Focus on gratitude – It’s human nature to measure ourselves against those ahead of us on the social ladder. When you consider everything good in your life and compare it to the problems of less fortunate people, the issue that’s making you depressed won’t seem as serious.
  4. Reflect on past success – In the wake of a colossal failure, it’s easy to forget everything you’ve ever done right. Take a few minutes to remember your past accomplishments and build yourself up. What made you successful before? What are your strengths?
  5. Break your routine – Going through the same routine, day after day, can be monotonous and depressing. It often leads to getting caught in a rut. To get out of it you need to temporarily change your routine. If you can, take a day off from work. Do something you don’t normally have time for or something you’ve never tried.
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